Parenting Blessings

I came across this article by Dr James Dobson and think that it is very important to have this share with the Asian community of parents. This scenarios are common in our daily life and please be aware and do not fall into this trap.__________________________________________________________________If If there’s one lesson parents need to learn most urgently, it is to guard what they say in their presence of their children.Many a times following speaking engagements, I have been approached by a mother about a problem her child was having. As mum was speaking, I noticed the subject of the conversation standing just behind, his little ears stretched as he listened to a candid description of his faults. I visibly flinch when a parent unintentionally disassemble a child’s self-esteem this way.It’s not just insensitive parents who do this. I once referred a bright  nine- year old boy to a neurologist because if severe learning problems. After giving the boy an examination, the doctor called in his parents, and discussed the details of the boy’s brain damage in front of his little patient. It was as if he could not hear those words, or comprehend the insult they carried.Sensitivity is the key. It means tuning into the thoughts and feeelings of our kids, listening to the cues they give us, and reacting appropriately to what we detect. It ’s a wise adult who understands that self-esteem is the most fragile characteristic in human nature, and once broken, its reconstruction is more difficult than repairing Humpty-Dumpty._________________________________________________________________

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