Examination Anxiety
Posted: May 11, 2010My daughter is at a stage where she does NOT experience examination anxiety at all. She has been so relaxed that I were the one who has examination anxiety on her behalf. .I have been travelling much this year because of my new role and frankly have not been diligently working with her on her revision on topics studied in school. It has been all fun and play with her whenever I have free time with her. Walking along the beach, singing songs, playing computer games or DS lite or even visiting friends and have dinner together with their children.This year, I did not feel the stress from the teachers. This was a surprise to me. I have not received any emails or SMS from them or even notes on my daughter’s notebook on what to revise and what to note. Or have it that my daughter been losing all the notes given out.Yes, only 1 thing we did not prepared together. It was the Chinese Oral presentation. That was the only time I felt very anxious and worried. Daddy, who has not been very good ( or below average ) in Chinese was the one who help and corrected her essay for Chinese Oral and Composition examination. Both father and daughter had forgotten to consult the private tutor I hired for her in this area. When Daddy proudly show me the corrected essay (copied version) which my daughter has submitted, I was furiously jumping mad ! The sentence construction was not right for 1-2 sentences. The words used are wrong! There are many Chinese words that sound alike but written in different ways as each word represent a different meaning. Her daddy totally got it wrong ! My daughter has since thought that was the correct word. ( Nian Ji ( 2nd Sound )meaning different grades in school vs Nian Ji (4 sound)- meaning different centuries. You see, my daughter holds high esteem of her father. “Daddy and Mummy knows better and more words than I do. ” I have to do ” de- and re- engineering ” to her before can can get the pronouniciation and the right wording written accurately.So what did I do ? I did most parents in Singapore do. Took leave for 2 days and stay by her side to revise on all the sums she had done wrong, encourage and keep reminding her she has God by her side and has God given Wisdom; she has to call on Jesus and Jesus will give her the answer to her doubts. Get her to bed early and ensure she gets the proper rest needed before her examination day. My daughter has been having this running nose for more than 10 days and I have just brought her to see her regular Dr Chan.Dr Chan was sharing about how a very anxious kid ( a patient of hers) whom cannot eat well and sleep well before examination was sent to her by her parents to be council by her. When my daughter heard this, she told me later in the evening before bed that she wants to visit Dr Chan again before next exam in school. I asked her why. She said Dr Chan’s patient got all As after visiting Dr Chan. She wants to do so too ! Well, in my heart, I was telling myself, it is I who need to see Dr Chan and not my daughter.
