Developing An ” Anger Contract ”
Posted: April 14, 2008I love being married and my spouse is wonderful. But every now and then, we still get irritated with each other. One of us will say something that offends the other and before you know it, we are both angry.
If you are married, then you know what I mean. No matter how well two people get along, conflict in a marriage is inevitable.
However, according to authors David And Claudia Arp, there is a right and wrong way to argue. They suggest that couples draw up an ” Anger contract” to help them work out these difficult times.
They wording needs to be agreed upon by both parties, but each contract should include a few key elements such as an agreement to acknowledge your anger to each other at the first sign of trouble. Both of you should also agree to not attack each other personally- focus on the problem, not your spouse, and be willing to get outside help and advice if a solution cannot be found. It is a simple idea, but it can go long way towards developing a solid relationship.
