Parenting Blessings

I have not written on my blog for quite long time due to other commitments as I grew with my child months by months. I cannot help but to share this since the conversation with one of the mother this morning.Every child is different. Even if they are twins, not one child is alike. God likes differences and have given each of them different talents, characters and qualities. Your parenting style, attitudes and methods will also change according to the situation and the child/ children or even the seniority of the children you have.Living in Singapore under a different education system that the government has taken; the objective of the government is to that groom and focus more on academic than on other aspects of the children’s talents, created many cross roads for the parents.Very often, I see the Ministry of Education and the people /parents viewing parenting as a huge factory churning up large pools of students and trying to streamline them like in  production lines. Those that fit into a certain mold, goes into one stream ( may be the best selected ), those out of the specs, goes into another stream ( may need to be trimmed ), those who are not useful, go to the trash stream ( to be disposed of ). The process of grooming these children are like in the movies ( especially those futuristics ones- Clones) where each of the categories are  brainwashed,  categorised, repeatedly enforced a certain values. These values are: You need to be ahead of your herd, you have perform to excel, you cannot stop but need to keep running (like the little hamster or the rat tested in the labs), the old world is not good, there is a promise of a new world that is better and it needs your effort to ” beat the rest” and be the top. Your academic determines your future employ abilities and your pay cheques. It is like; your academic results, determine the success in your life !Where the focus turns academic, when every achievements is measured by numbers of A* and points on the paper in your examination report card. When parents start manipulating, condemned, lied, getting through loop holes just to justify getting their children into the ” best category of production line”. What signals do parents sent to their children and their future generations.My advise to myself have been , do not go along with the flow of the herd. Questions yourself , where and what is your family values, parenting attitudes and goals. Where is your children talents ?  Just academic , or sports or asethetics  or even  having a listening ears and be empathetic are qualities and talents of some children.Have your our attitudes towards parenting. You know your children well by communicating and sharing your thoughts with them. Do not be sucked into the world or government system of education. Do not be pressured by other parents. If there is a need to pull yourself out of any parenting groups that is influencing you to do otherwise to your child/children, get out of it.No one is responsible for your children except for yourself. If you do not have your own way of parenting, you will not have unique children that belongs to you and share your family values.My prayer is for parents to have their attitude towards parenting to be right and not go along with the herd mentality and pushing the children into the ” production line of streaming and weighing their worth by academics only.

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